To Kiss or Not To Kiss

There are many challenges to overcome when it comes to being an extroverted introvert on a first date. Knowing what to wear, knowing where to go, knowing how much to listen and how much to introduce unprompted, knowing whether to bring up how much I enjoy science fiction or not. But all of those are... Continue Reading →

Putting the Dad into Single Dad

Yesterday in the UK was Father’s Day, a typically overblown corporate sponsored event designed to shift boxer shorts, novelty ties and as many soft rock compilation CDs as possible. I celebrated it in as close to traditional style as possible – I was treated to breakfast in bed, got a few presents and went out... Continue Reading →

Picky, Picky

Getting matches on dating apps is a grind. Despite the fact that I am on a number of different dating sites, despite the fact that I’m constantly tweaking my profile to improve it and despite the fact that I send a lot of messages, the rate at which I get suitable matches is disappointingly low.... Continue Reading →

Tat-too much?

I am rapidly coming to understand that there is no perfect person out there for everyone else to desire. Okay, so Ryan Reynolds gets close, but other than that particular demi-god it really does take all folks. Online dating gives daters the chance to really hone in on what they like and don't like so... Continue Reading →

Swiping By Numbers

Recently I found myself with a lot of time to kill. I'd headed to climb Everest, but as my brother got altitude sickness I instead found myself looking after him in a hotel for over a week in the jungle with literally nothing to do. So I swiped. And I swiped. And I swiped some... Continue Reading →

Stalky McStalkface

A few weeks ago I went on a date with a woman. It was one of the first dates I'd been on; in fact, she was one of the first people I actually matched with, let alone the first I got chatting with. She came across as confident, happy and well versed in the dating... Continue Reading →

Rate my Date

For many years I worked in consultation and engagement services across a number of organisations. My role was to go out into the community and find out what they thought of something - a policy, a publication, an issue, a community, a development - and distill that down to report it back to decision makers.... Continue Reading →

Online Tabboo

"Don't worry, I'm happy to lie about how we met! ;-)" That line, or variations on it, is one I've seen on no small number of profiles. It says "I am embarrassed to be here, and no doubt you are too; we're better than this. I don't want anyone to know I've resorted to online... Continue Reading →

Dress to impress

Clothes maketh the man, or so they say (whoever "they" are). This was never a problem for me in my previous life. I had four types of clothes: work clothes (suits, shirts), wedding clothes (with a little work clothes crossover), daily clothes (jeans, t-shirts) and nice clothes (nicer jeans, nicer t-shirts). The latter group was... Continue Reading →

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